13 social ‘norms’ we need to get rid of, editors say

“Normal.” “It’s like that.” “This is how it always has been.” Social norms are dangerous because we accept them as reality since they are common, even though we know something is wrong. Normal no not equal correct, fair or appropriate. Not only are there certain habits that we should challenge, but there are certain social norms that need to go completely.

We are usually not encouraged to question or question social norms when we are younger. On the contrary, we are taught to respect them. This is one of the reasons we grow up with toxic ideas like that ‘real’ men don’t cry, or that we have to dress or act a certain way to make friends, or even succumb to it. peer pressure. In reality, social rules only exist because we created them.

If you don’t believe me, all you have to do is look at other societies and cultures, whose standards are totally different. For example, the other day everyone balked at the idea of ​​IKEA making burgers out of bugs, but billions of people around the world eat bugs every day. Really and really, we making the rules – and what we consider “normal” is usually just a product of how we were raised or the culture we grew up in.

If social norms get in the way of your style, you are not alone. Here are 16 we need to get rid of, according to Reddit.


Feeling sensitive with the extended family

Forced affection is more than annoying. “Family” is not always synonymous with “loved one”. Won’t a quick hug be enough?


Open gifts in front of people

Is there anyone who really enjoys doing this? It’s uncomfortable AF, especially if you don’t like the giveaway and have to totally fake it. “Thank you very much, Barbara! I LOVE my new fart rock …”


“Manly” and “girly” drinks

Take it from that girl, whose boyfriend loves fruity drinks: men don’t have drink beer and women don’t have to drink cute cocktails. Drink anything that tickles your taste buds.


Make plans that will never happen

We do this out of politeness, but it is Oh so wrong. I lost count of how many lunches and coffee dates I talked to friends about, it never ended up happening. Can’t we all be real to each other?


Pretend happiness

I think there is some validity to the adage, “pretend until you do.” Again, nothing makes me laugh like a person screaming “SOO” when you ask her how she is. Way to keep it real.


Family is the most important


Family is all; but you can also choose who your family is. Being related by blood doesn’t automatically mean you and your family are close. For some of us, our friends are our family.


Let work define you

It’s a challenge, because since we were little we’re told that part of the ~ American Dream ~ is getting the big job done. We weren’t put on this planet to work, and you should still value your happiness and well-being above all else, even if that means taking a different career path than what you were “supposed” to be doing.


Men don’t cry

We blame men for being callous and then we ridicule them when they cry. Instead of making sure they can’t win, how about everyone has the right to express their emotions?


Complete makeup


If you like to wear makeup, excellent! If you find it’s a total pain in the ass, great! You do it yourself and don’t let anyone force you to look a certain way.


The house, the spouse, the children


It’s such a personal decision, and we are all different. No one should be forced to start a family just because it seems like the norm. And if you to do want a family? Happy breeding to you!



We do it to fill this awkward silence, and yet it continues to be awkward. Can’t we bury ourselves in our phones like normal people?


Having to give gifts

I love giving gifts! I don’t like to feel pressured to give someone a gift because I feel like I’m ‘supposed to’ do it, or worse, I just do it because I’m ‘worried’ about it. he offers me one and I’ll show up empty-handed. Giving gifts is something you do because you want someone to have something special. It’s not an obligation. Let’s stop being weird about this.


Act like a “young woman”


I will never forget the first time I was told that young women are supposed to have long hair. To this day, I am terrified of cutting mine off. Wear dresses. Refrain from expressing an opinion or disagreeing. Never let a colorful word escape your mouth. ALL the things women are discouraged from doing at the risk of appearing less “feminine”.

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